Lessons - Why High Achievers Feel Empty Despite Winning | Danny Morel - Transformation Guide

In this lessons episode, explore the journey from success without peace to healing through self-awareness. Learn why unhealed childhood wounds shape our adult lives. Learn how presence and mirror work can reconnect us to our true selves. And learn why grounding, nature, and yoga are essential first steps toward lasting inner fulfillment. So what happens when now you hear this idea and you're trying to reconcile this duality where you still want to be traditionally successful, but you also want to have fulfillment in all the other areas of your life that you've neglected for the past 30 years. And you're like, I only know one I only know how to bust my ass and have an okay relationship, but I know how to make money. That's right. Where do I start? Where do I start healing? Yeah, I think I'll tell you why I started. Am I going to die like this? Am I going to die? Never knowing real love. Am I going to die always having to achieve another goal? Am I going to die? Never knowing what peace is. Am I going to die being disconnected from my partner? Am I going to die feeling disconnected? It's got for my kids because love is love. It's a frequency, you know what I'm saying? And so those were the questions that I started to ask myself. And then, you know, when I started to become like really present to what was happening in my life, I started to realize that everything in my life, I can trace it backwards to what I did or didn't receive as a little boy or as a little girl. See, because now that's the first step in healing. The first step in healing is awareness. It's that oh shit moment. It's that moment where you finally understand time out. I have been operating this entire time in my life as a wounded little boy or a little girl. Sure, I have nice toys, nice cars, nice stuff, and I'm successful. But deep inside, I'm afraid to look in the mirror or I'm afraid to look at my partner when I'm making love or I'm afraid to be held or I'm afraid to calm down. I'm on vacation all the time and my partner is always complaining that I'm on the phone and like your brain justifies it because you're trying to give them a better life bullshit. You ain't trying to give nobody shit. You're trying to fulfill the parts of you that are missing. You're trying to fill the void in you as a matter of fact, I'll go as far as to say it. The same way that a crackhead smokes crack is the same way that you always have to have another goal. I've thought a lot about this idea of it's slightly different, but I think it ties into it. When you don't have a God in your life in the traditional sense, you replace something else with God and that can be work. It can be some other vice like drinking or drugs. I think this ties into it as well. When you don't when you don't heal, you numb that pain with something that society actually tells you is okay, which is work. Well, let's say that's the kicker. The kicker is, if I may, I'm going to take it a little bit deeper. Go for it. Yeah. Yeah. The kicker is that the 3D world here here in earth, the energy that rules the 3D world is the masculine energy. It's not the feminine, right? Which is why we think God is a man and which is why we are constantly up here in our heads, always on the go, go, go. Well, so what does the 3D world do? The 3D world uplifts and puts on a pedestal, the people that are in the system and successful at the system, right? So we put on a pedestal, people like Diddy. That dude is messed up, messed up, but we gladly have been buying tickets and support, but what, but he's successful. So I want to take a picture with him. You want to take a picture with darkness. So what, what, what you want to take a picture with because you're not awake and you don't understand what's actually happening, right? And so then here we are, we have a world that is basically telling you, hey, listen, everything that you've been looking for, which you've actually been looking for is the piece that you felt in your mother's womb. That's what you've been looking for your entire life. Everything you've been looking for, you will find it when you make more money or when you become more successful or when you have that car or when you have the partner or when you have whatever, you know, and you know, it takes, that's when a spiritual awakening happens is when you, when you finally get there, like I did and you're like son of a gun, I'm still not happy. And that's where the journey began for me. And that's where we take people through that process, so part of what happened with your mother was facing death and facing the reality of death. And like you said, the first question you ask yourself is, do I want to die this way? So I think that even walking through your own journey is usually helpful to people that are going to start on their own path, even after listening to this or consuming your content. Hopefully it doesn't take death. And I mean, I do like the idea of stoicism and sort of confronting your own death, but hopefully it doesn't take that to get somebody to take the first step. Where do they start? Where did you start? What's the first thing? I want to reiterate something, but you see, I think part of the healing process, if you decide to take it this deep is healing your relationship with death, because you have to understand that when you're afraid of death, you're actually afraid to live. Because everything in life is all duality. It's all one and the same. So for example, fear and love are actually the same. It's just broken. It's a strand of energy that is just broken, right? And so what happens is we as human beings, we go, uh, we're shutting off this side of it. So we're going to go live on this side of it. It's the same thing with life and if someone is afraid of dying, like by the way I once was, what is actually happening is you're afraid to live as your authentic self. This is really deep. So then you get to go into those parts of you in a deep, deep way to experience, wait a minute, who am I really? Who am I really without the bullshit? Who am I really? Who would I have been? If my mom would have known how to love me, which by the way, rewind, there's no way she could have because her mom, her mom died at 13 days old. So what I had been carrying my whole life was a feminine wound that like most of your listeners, we've been carrying for generation upon generation upon generation. And if you've ever heard of the terminology, the one, you get to become the one, right? You get to become the one that heals it so that it ends with you and it doesn't pass on to your children. I know there's this movie called ends with you. I never watched it. I didn't want to get into the like the drama of the Blake and all that stuff, but it literally could end with you. So listen, where does it start? I would say one of the most powerful practices that we can have is to look in the mirror. And I'll tell you why because the eyes are connection, right? And the eyes are literally like the doorway to the soul. So you'll notice, like if you scroll down on my Instagram, I once did as well, most successful people that are wounded internally are always wearing sunglasses. Why? Because they're afraid for you to see them. That is the energetic picture of this. This is external. I need something external to block me so that you don't see the real me because I'm afraid of you seeing the real me. I'm afraid of you seeing past the barrier and the illusion. Yeah. And so the first thing I like to tell people is go look in the mirror because if you can't look at yourself, you're never going to be able to look at a partner. You're never ever actually, if you can't see yourself, you'll never be able to see someone else. If you can't love yourself, you'll never be able to love someone else. And what I discovered, I couldn't do the dude. My mind was always racing. I couldn't sit still meditation. We'll go there in a second. I couldn't look in the mirror because I was like, I just couldn't do it. I was so scared and so anxious and so disconnected, right? And so that's a daily practice that you can do. And then when you do, you just send loving thoughts to yourself, right? You send affirmations to yourself. You send kind words and kind energy to yourself. And I want to prepare your listener, get ready because emotion could start to come out. And that's your body starting to release and purge out everything that you've been holding inside of you. And so that's where that's a beautiful practice. The second thing and I trust me, listen, never in my life. I grew up in the ghetto. I was around gangs. I never in my life that I think I'd be this woo-woo guy that's about to tell you what I'm about to tell you. But go take your shoes off, go sit on the grass, go reconnect with the wind, the sun, nature. There's a reason why you feel so replenished when you get away with from all of the hoopla and you go on vacation. It's because you're reconnecting with nature, which is mother earth, which by the way is the mother, right? It's you reconnecting to the groundedness of the mother. We were never intended to walk around with shoes on it. So that's a second thing that you can do. And then the third is yoga. I can't stress this enough. It's really a beautiful practice because it combines you to your body, your mind, your heart, your breathing, your soul. It reconnects you with you. And I was one of those guys at the beginning that I was like, I'm not going to do that shit like. And now, man, it just it brings me back to me. I'm going to give a little plug. My wife has a beautiful yoga app. It's blessed yoga.com. It's free for seven days. You can go try it out. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this valuable, don't forget to hit that subscribe button so you never miss an episode. And if you want to dive deeper into this conversation, check out the links in the description to watch the full episode. See you in the next one.