Lessons - Shatter Generational Money Struggles & Build Lasting Wealth | Sarah Jakes Roberts - Financial Empowerment Leader

In this lessons episode, discover a playbook for breaking free from generational cycles and redefining success on your own terms. Learn why envisioning an authentic path can shatter inherited limitations, discover how transforming fear of success into opportunity, fuels growth, and understand that every step taken is a lesson toward a more sustainable future. So when because I'm sure that a lot of this stuff is just like generational trauma. Like what you're talking about right now is just normalize just the way it's always been done. It's like this is how much money my family has always made. That takes a lot to disrupt that cycle. It takes a lot for you to push back. Let's figure out a playbook for somebody that doesn't matter. It could be somebody whose parents made 50 grand a year parents made 200 grand a year. It doesn't really matter. The point is, see you're trying to break out of this cycle. Generation generation generation kind of this is the status quo. What is the action item? The step that you can take that starts to that flywheel that pushes you in the right direction? Okay, so I will take it in deeper because I think that we are experiencing a generational shift in the ways that we engage with technology in the way that we even engage with business. I think that we're literally watching the world change from the way that things have always been done into a new way of being. I look at this generation of millennials and now zers that are no longer willing to work the way that some boomers did where their families were the casualties to pursuing the pension or their retirement where they really are choosing I would rather live in a different type of life silence to have my family and values in mental health than pursue this corner office that may result in me not having the family I desire. So I think we're experiencing a shift. I would say to that person who's never seen it done but feels within themselves that it should change even if they don't believe that they're the ones that should change it to begin to think about like what changes would you implement? Don't get bogged down by the details. Don't get caught in the list. It's like let's really dream. What do we want to see it look like? What would we want to see done differently in our family? What type of resources do we want to see available because until we can really give that a vision that we can't really even attract the level of thinking, the level of creativity, the level of innovation required to lay hold of that vision. It's one thing to want things to change. It's another thing to let your mind roll free, prone free rather with the innovation required to make it happen. And so I would say take the limits off of your mind to take the limits off of those parameters and to begin dreaming about what you want to see happen. And then what would it take for you to get from where you are to what you see? Once again, don't think about the money that you would need the time that you need the people that you would need. Just really begin to lay out this plan because I think what's going to happen when you begin to lay that plan out is that you will begin to see opportunities differently. You will see how small opportunities can lead to bigger moments. You will begin to hear it echoed in other people's stories. And what you see as a dream will not be as unreachable because you've got a vision and you begin to see it happen in other people's lives. I love this. You know, you mentioned a really good point. The way we work, the way we want to work, what we value is changing. Do you see issue with that? Do you think that maybe so two two ends of the spectrum? The traditional way it's always been done. Maybe that creates more wealth immediately. I don't know. It doesn't always have to if you find a way to architect wealth in different ways. But maybe it creates more wealth that gives you more options. And maybe if you are able to think differently, you have a grade nine to five. It allows you the stability to build a business that can really take into the next level on the other end of the spectrum. You have somebody who is not wanting to work in an office, is wanting to travel, is wanting to do maybe a more like like no mad lifestyle. And maybe that allows for more creativity to think differently and to approach life differently. So I'm curious when you speak to so many people and people come to you for advice, is the advice to pursue something that feels good and is more in vogue or is it to push back and to do the hard work and to sort of put in the wraps so that you're you're used to the work required to take yourself to the next level. When you talk to young people, which way do you point them? Well, you actually do I think there's something more I think results may be are you not at the end of those prescription drug commercials that they would like to 20,000 side effects and a whole bunch of different out. Yeah. I don't think we're going to know how well this path turns out for anyone for probably 30, 40, 50 years when they're towards the end of their lives, saying what they wish they would have done done differently or what they thought they'd done well. I think that my goal is to help people lay hold of a vision of their spiritual, mental, emotional, financial health that is a reflection of what feels authentic for themselves. I don't know that my goal is to point them in any specific direction as much as it is to create a space where they have time to be authentic where they're no longer living under other people's pressures, other people's experiences so that they can determine what authenticity looks like for them so that they can create a plan that allows them to define what success looks like for themselves. So that no matter what happens 40, 50 years down the road, maybe they had generational wealth has gone to another level or maybe they had generational generational health and emotional wellness that happened in a way that they'd never seen before that they will be able to say I lived according to the truth of my values and sometimes I had to stretch and sometimes I had to disappoint some people and sometimes I had to remodify those plans but I lived according to my conviction and so if I can get people to a space of authenticity, I think that conviction can tell them what path to take. When you you know you mentioned that you sort of helped people across financial, mental, spiritual and even physical to a degree, I'm curious if you see one of those buckets hurting people the most, say in 2024, like which one of those buckets is not full? Oh, it depends a lot. I mean there's I am speaking to primarily people of color who have had disproportionate experiences in professionalism and financial spaces and so I think that most of the time when I speak to them they're reeling from the effects of feeling disqualified from rules before they even get into them. But then when I speak to other spaces where maybe they aren't primarily people of color, but I'm marvel at what they have gone through and the buckets that they see is empty. I think if there is anything that I feel remedies all of it no matter which bucket is empty, I think that from a place of emotional and spiritual wellness and fullness that we're able to better show up in those empty spaces and to get them filled in ways that are healthy for ourselves, which is why I think if I had to choose any bucket to pour into I would love to pour into all of them, but absolutely that I thought can get your core well that that can overflow into those other spaces. There's a quote that I love that sort of speaks into stepping into your power. The quote is it is our light, not our darkness, the most frightens us and that's Marian Williamson. And I'm curious if you know the reason why we understand that there's all these things that stop us from believing in ourselves and there's all these generations and traumas and shame and doubt. But say we listen to this podcast, people listen to this podcast and they're going to say, yeah, I get it, like I get it. And then fast forward a year, they're still not going to do anything. Like, you're just not going to do shit. They're not going to try and fix anything. Even though they know that there's a problem, even though they know that they're not being their best self or putting their best self towards their work or their family or the world, why are we so scared of succeeding? My hypothesis is that we are afraid of success because we are not sure if we can sustain it. I think that if we could do it once, that would be something, but it would be disappointing to hit it once and never be able to do it again. So it's easier to not go for it at all. What if I can't sustain it? Like what if I can start? And I see this in relationships too. Like what if I can get the relationship, but then I'm not a good partner and I'm too selfless on this. And I think the idea of sustaining what we start keeps us from initiating gets to begin with. I would say to that person that with each attempt, we become better at sustainability, that we learn what tires us out. We learn how to communicate better. We learn what plans we need to have in place. I would think less about sustaining where we start and more about learning each step of the way. Because if we learn each step of the way, then the goal is not sustainability. It's just another lesson. And I think success is how many lessons we can pile onto this journey that make us better for the next step. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this valuable, don't forget to hit that subscribe button so you never miss an episode. And if you want to dive deeper into this conversation, check out the links in the description to watch the full episode. See you in the next one.