Lessons - Rewiring Your Mind: The Revolutionary Therapy Changing Mental Health | Marisa Peer - Hypnotherapy Expert & RTT Creator

In this lessons episode, discover how rapid transformational therapy helps overcome the belief of I'm not enough, by using powerful affirmations to rewire the brain. Learn why embracing I am enough, boosts confidence, improves relationships, and supports success, and why accepting your true self is key to lasting change. How does this tie into RTT into rapid transformational therapy? Because you've taught something like 13,000 and probably counting therapists worldwide this test, 19,000. So obviously a lot of people know this technique. And well, not enough yet, but a lot. How does this tie into, I mean, you're doing good work. So listen, one therapist at a time, you're teaching them, that's all that matters. So how does this tie into like, how does this technique sort of take people from where they are today before they're listening to this podcast or where they are in their life and take them to the point where they do feel that they're enough, they are happy with the worth they're doing. They are tapped into the one thing they're meant to do in the world. How does this technique sort of facilitate what you're trying to teach? Well, RTT is very fast. It's rapid transformation therapy. So what it does is in a session, it takes you back to what caused any issues you have, but somebody might say, now I procrastinate, I self sabotage, but really the core of almost all of our issues is this, I'm not enough. I'm not worthy enough. I'm not attractive enough. I'm not educated enough. I'm not interesting enough. There's so many ways of thing you're not enough. And if you feel you're not enough, you will need more, more food, more stuff. You know, the emptiness inside comes from this not enoughness, but the thing is it's not even true. So what RTT does is it invites you to go back and find out where did it begin because no one is worthy enough. I'm not enough. You know, I've done, I helped fund an orphanage in Zimbabwe and these kids have got nothing, but they feel like they've got everything. They don't think, oh, well, I've been abandoned by my parents. Therefore, I don't count. They cry just like a kid. There's got everything. And so the first step is to understand that whatever you're thinking you're not enough of, it's not true. You're worthy enough. You're good enough. And so if the common issue, and all the other issues stems when I'm not enough, then surely the answer is to flip that, or I am enough. So the most simple thing is put it on your phone alerts twice a day, write it, stamp it on your pillows in in marker, have it written on your fridge. I have these braces, they will say I'm enough and I have it all over my house and start to not just say it, but state it, affirm it and body, I'm enough, I'm enough, I'm enough, repeat it, repeat it, repeat it. At first you'll go, but I'm not really enough because I haven't got a degree. I'm not really enough because I get all my clothes in target. I'm not really enough because I'm living in a shared house with people that haven't got anything either, but then eventually you'll run out of objections because the person's objecting is you. You're coming up with objections that eventually you'll run out and then you go, then you're, you know, you say that every day it must be true. Now it's going to sink in. Because you are enough, you know, I was watching the Victoria's Secret Show last week, thinking what a terrible message is saying to women, if you're listening to your underwear, you'll be happy. And that's not true. Many women look gorgeous in that underwear. I want to kill themselves, or on Prozac, they're anorexic. Just big, if beautiful made you happy, everyone is, we was there. I'm so happy, you know, we saw poor Liam Payne from one direction last week that mess that poor young boy was in because he didn't feel enough either. So you have to go back to the beginning. If you don't think you're enough, it's not true. You're in great company. 80% of us have it, but it's your job to get rid of it by saying, I'm enough. I'm enough. I'm enough. Keep saying it, saying it, saying it, it all sink in. The mind learns why a repetition write it within lots of places and eventually it will go in. And you'll start to feel so dramatically different because if everything comes from feeling not enough that you're reversing that, you're reversing all of your issues. You know, I've never met an alcoholic ever in my life who thought they're enough or a bulimic or an anorexic. I met many who said, you know, their statement just subtly changed my entire life. I stopped starving myself. I stopped bingeing. I stopped drinking. Someone wrote me and said, I actually stopped having suicidal thoughts. When I heard you say over and over again, I'm enough. I'm enough. I'm enough. You know, we've, I've had the, I'm enough movement for I think 10 years now. We've got amazing feedback. So we know it works. We've got schools who tell us, you know, bullying has disappeared in this school when all the kids say, I'm enough. And the bullies are the ones who benefit the most because they stop bullying kids because of course, a bully thinks I'm not enough. But I make you feel not enough. And then I feel a bit more adequate. It's interesting how it's such a simple phrase. And I want to understand how this actually impacts us on a mental level. Like what it's doing to our brain when we repeat these kinds of these kinds of saying, I guess affirmations for lack of a better word because what we, I think the average person does because I'm guilty of this too. And I think that this is a trap that people fall into. The, the need for more, the need for more and you, and you pursue that via working harder or I don't know, like, you know, you're trying to lose more weight than what's healthy or you are, you're not happy with your spouse or you're cheating. Like you're doing all these things that are on and on and unhealthy amounts. So you're looking for, you're looking for ways to validate yourself. And in any way possible outside of just being okay with who you are right now. And I think that some people take it to an extreme, but I think at a very rudimentary level, everybody has some issues with their self worth. And regardless of whether or not it's like the work or the extreme dieting or the, you know, looking for an escape in terms of drugs or multiple partners or alcohol like somebody's looking for an escape from their life. In some way, everyone has their own thing. So I think I know, I think I know why people do that because they, they don't have these sort of these frameworks in place to really understand who they are and the value they bring to the world because they've played this comparison game their whole life. But when you start to say things like I am enough for some people that may seem like, okay, well, how is that going to, how is that going to get me over my anorexia or bulimia or how is that going to stop me from working a hundred hours a week, even though I'm dead tired and I'm burnt out and I'm stressed in the week, I feel like I have to make this much money or I have to make my company, you know, be, get to this size. What does this like simple saying actually do? Does it like rewire your brain to a degree? Is there some, wait, neuroplasticities in a neuroplasticity, which is science that when you think certain thoughts, you're creating different neurons. Quantum physics says and quantum physics is a more reliable science than medical science. It says, if I change my thoughts, I change my energy, I change my vibrations, and then it changed, I can change not just me, but I can change my relationship with you, and quantum physics is a very reliable science. And once people say, oh, isn't this stuff, we'll say two things, actually, it's not woo-woo. It's quantum physics and by the way, woo-woo actually works. Even if it was woo-woo, woo-woo is great, it works. So let's go to the love thing, you know, you're about to meet someone on a day and you'll be with me on my guard. I hope I'm good enough for them. I hope that I have an abode, no, they don't reject me. And you should be saying, this was going to see how amazing I am because when you know you're enough, you don't think, oh, but I better work for love and chase love and earn love and put on my best self and make a real effort so that they might like me. You know, I'm enough. I'm lovable enough, of course, to make an effort, but never go on a date saying, are they, well, I'd be good enough for them. Say, I hope they're good enough for me. This is the person who can see that I'm an amazing person. And so same thing in a career, you know, if you're chasing and chasing and chasing, more recognition and working hard and burning out, you need to go back and go, hey, I am talented enough, I'm good enough. And I go to my boss and go, I've got this great idea, I've got this unique scope because when you know you're enough, it resonates from, it's a level that people pick up, it's that quantum physics again. If I know I'm enough, really know it, and I can state it affirm it enough so it becomes resonates out of me. Other people know it too. So I've worked on many shows where I've been on a judging panel. And people come in and you know the ones that know they've got it and the ones that are faking it. When you fake it, you just feel like a fake. But when you can resonate, I'm enough. You know, I've got a gift or you're safe with me and I'm a smart person just like animals know when they're safe with your kids know. You know, you ought to know if you like your animals know if you like animals. Once you get it inside of you, it's not just in you and resonates out from you and it's very reassuring. Confidence is reassuring. It's quite sexy. And neediness is the opposite of that. So it comes back to a jujube. It's your job to go, hey, what do I need to hear? And why and I just telling myself those things every now and confident I'm self for sure. I'm going to go out a day and go, this person is lucky to be with me because I'm a great person. Of course, I'm going to get that job, that pay rise, that promotion because I'm ready and I've got what it takes. But a lot of us give that job to someone as he can, can you can you take do that for me? Well, I could, but better if you do it because then you won't be needy. And the same thing with that, we should be saying to our kids every day, you're a smart kid. You know, you're so lucky you're good at math. That's all you need in life. Yes, you know, you're good at and that's where you're going to go instead of saying, but can you be good at the guitar and the piano and I have so many distraught children whose parents write and make them do the piano or the violin they absolutely hate it as they do all these musical parents, you know, you haven't given birth to yourself. It's really your kids got migraines because you make them pay the piano every day and they don't even like them. They can't even tell you but their body is telling you know the feeling that cannot find the expression in tears or cause other organs to weep and I have so many kids whose hair is falling out and they've got headaches and then they come and they always say my mum makes them pay the violin. I have to do the piano every day. I've got to play chess because my dad's a chess person and they go and I can't tell if I hate it so I say to the parents, it's new need to let your kid dream their own dream. One of the saddest things is how we try to make someone ask the story, our story. I've got to be a mathematician because my dad was into maths. I've got to be into this because my parents are into it but the truth is we don't give birth to ourselves. My daughter is nothing like me. She's talented and amazing but she's very, I'm very tired. She's very disorganized. I'm a minimum and she's an absolute maximist. She loves having matters and stuff and I never think oh I think of course because I didn't give birth how boring you really give birth to yourself. I mean that would bore you to tears. Your kids are your teachers they're not supposed to be there supposed to be nothing like you and they don't have a voice to say I don't really like this so they begin to create all kinds of pains and illnesses because they're not able to say that's not my bag but we should allow them to say that. We should allow them to say mum this is your dream it's not my dream. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this valuable don't forget to hit that subscribe button so you never miss an episode and if you want to dive deeper into this conversation check out the links in the description to watch the full episode. See you in the next one.