Lessons - Overcoming Self Sabotage | David Meltzer - Co-Founder of Sports 1 Marketing

In this lessons episode, discover how simple habits like practicing gratitude can transform your mindset. Why persistence and faith are crucial for success and how to break free from self-sabotaging behaviors. Learn to embrace abundance, overcome setbacks, and pursue limitless growth with practical strategies for lasting change. So when you when you shifted this mindset, I'm also curious because now you teach. So your vision is to help a billion people and that's a thousand times a thousand times a thousand. And that makes sense. And that's what your vision is right now. But for somebody who hasn't ever consumed your content or listened to you, or even where your head was at when you were doing well, how do you break yourself out of the rat race so you can shift your mindset to be more in line with where you're at right now because I think that's the biggest issue. Once you're going down the rabbit hole, it's easy to pick up speed. It's easy to learn more, but it's hard to get paycheck to paycheck, trying to cover rent. You have kids, you have mortgage. I just need the what I need the better job. I need the I need the raise. I need the promotion. So how do you get out of that mindset? With gratitude, most people take for granted what other people are wishing for. And so I use gratitude. The simple place to start is to say thank you before you wake up. Say thank you before you go to bed. Most people think that they can do that. In fact, I tell you anyone, if you want to change your life, the fastest, most proven way from the greatest thought leaders that I'm blessed to be around from Deepak Chopra to Oprah Winfrey to Sadguru to Jack Canfield and Bob Procker, Brian Tracy, all teach gratitude. If you could say thank you for 30 straight days, it'll change your life. You will not have a different mindset. You won't have obstructions, voice shorties and obsses. You'll start to implement the ability to find the light, the love and the lessons and everything. You'll start manifesting what you want rapidly and accurately. You'll start increasing the momentum of faith in your life that the pain that you have, the setbacks, failures, the bills, all the different challenges that you have are simply pushing you to a better place instead of stopping you or punishing you, but it all starts with gratitude. But here's the saddest thing about gratitude, Scott, is that it sounds so easy to say thank you for 30 straight days before you go to bed when you wake up. It took me, me who teaches this nine months. And so I always tell people who here thinks they can do that. Everyone raises their hand by tomorrow morning, half of the people will do it by the next three days from now, nobody will be doing it. It's so difficult. And so you have to start practicing gratitude. You have to start shifting the mindset, the mindset and what you consciously are doing to find the light, the love and the lessons. You have to start realizing the law, gravity applies to you, even though the world spinning, hurling and rotating at such a speed, you should be thrown off of it. You're at the right place at the perfect time. You are happy, healthy, wealthy and worthy. You need to shift your paradigm and perspective to what you're doing to interfere with it. So utilizing the law of Goya, G-O-Y-A, you got to get off your ass. And instead of trying to make it happen, attaching your emotions to an outcome, you have to attach all of that energy to clearing the interference by recognizing the needs of the ego, the need to be right, offended, separate, inferior, superior, anxious, frustrated, angry, guilty, resentful, worried, worrying is wishing for what you don't want. You have much time, emotion, value and money is wasted on worrying. ISIS in law schools, they got, I hope, wing rules of perpetuity aren't on this test. I would say to get it again and guess what would show up first. We're actually wishing for what we don't want. So when I can have people institute the law of gravity, institute the law of Goya, now they start to realize with that momentum, with the awareness that the law of attraction works, the law of allowance works. And so when we start with gratitude, we move to forgiveness, which leaves us to accountability, which leads us to effective communicating, effectively communicating with the greatest source of light, love and lessons, appreciating what we receive, acknowledging it by giving it away. In other words, allowing us to be inspired in spirit, gratitude, forgiveness, accountability and inspiration will allow things to come more rapidly and accurately, which creates that momentum, which then makes things easier and easier and easier, allowing it to aggregate and accelerate on itself. You mentioned a really interesting point, how it's so simple to just take that first step and just be gracious and have gratitude for everything that's in our lives. But most people don't take that step. So follow a question of that is, why do you think we're so keen on self sabotage? What's the reason? Well, number one, it's understanding time and how things aggregate upon themselves, how they compound an interest. Let me give you an example. When we do positive things, we expect an immediate result. When we do negative things, we never think they'll be any impact on us. So in the reason is it because of time. So if I was going to start a business, for example, and I said to myself, this is going to take 20 months in order to break even on my business to get profitable. Well, the hardest part to understand is if I do all the right things, it'll take about 90% of the time just to get to a point where we can be aware that we've even made progress. So what happens in 18 months of the 20 months? People tell you're wasting your time. You have doubts, self sabotage because we don't see the result. So 99% of the people get in their own way, create interference between them and what's actually going to happen. And they quit. Here's even sadder part. Everything doubles upon itself under the theory of 72 Einstein compound interest theory. So at 18 months, you finally see a minimum result. Now you're really doubting it because you're like, I've worked 18 months. I'm never going to get there in 20 months. Well, in month 19, you get to 50% of the way there. You've doubled the percentage. But yet in the human aspect, the perception and mental disability of self sabotage, this is when we grab on to what's missing, what we don't want and what other people think. And another 99% of the 1% quit at 19 months, even though if they conceive reverse, they'd realize they're almost there. And of course, those who have the enjoyment of the consistent persistent pursuit of their potential, that they've instituted faith as their currency, that know that they're happy, healthy, wealthy and worthy. They get there in 20 months, they get to profitability. Here's the best part. In month 21, you get 200% in month 22, 400%. So the key to self sabotage is to understand that I'm enjoying the pursuit. I am not attaching the pursuit to an end, which may or may not make me happy. And when we learn to be happy by finding the light, the love and the lessons, by being consistent and persistent in the pursuit of our potential, not allowing time to aggregate and compel or to resist ourselves, instead realizing that sooner or later at the right place of the perfect time, if I utilize the law of Goya, the law of attraction and allowance will bring exactly what I want or even better at the right place at the perfect time. One thing that you also speak about often is, actually, no, I want to, I want to first touch on one thing in terms of faith. You mentioned faith a lot. And I actually thought this was an interesting question because I hear a lot of people speak about the most the most successful habits of, you know, high performers, entrepreneurs, individuals. But you mentioned faith as one of the things that is sort of like that north star metric for success is faith, faith, the most important mindset habit thing that you have to, if you're too, if you want to be successful, or are there more tangible things like grit, perseverance, tenacity, what is your take on those habits that will actually get you to the finish line and then some? Yeah, I think there's a reconciliation about 50-50 between patience and persistence. And so faith will give you patience, persistence will make it happen. The problem is when you're persistent, you're going to make mistakes, failures, and setbacks are going to occur. Pain is going to be the indicator that you're learning and growing and expanding and propelling yourself to a better place. Faith is what allows you to see that pain, setbacks, failures as progress, not punishment. And therefore, pain and persistence and patience are so closely tied together that without the law of Goya, without persistence, you'll never get there. And without faith, you'll never get there because if you stick into the learning curve or the learning zone and without faith, you'll quickly enter the anxiety zone, which you'll feel like you're being punished and you'll go back down to your comfort zone. And if you do have faith when you're persistent and you're out in the learning zone and you get to the anxiety zone, you'll continue to tread forward and just get better at what you do. And things get easier and easier. They accelerate, they grow and compound on themselves. So keep doing the right things. Being kind is one of them. So faith and persistence are the 50-50 combination necessary to make it. And in one other concept that you speak about, which I thought was interesting, which I've never heard of before, is the world of infinity plus one. So explain to me what that is because I've this, you know, you get enough interviews, you start to hear threads of similarities between, you know, different people and how they teach over success. But I've never heard this before. So explain what this is, how you came to the conclusion, this was something that should be practiced and how to actually practice it. Well, you know, as I moved into the world of abundance, I realized what infinity was and what unlimited, unlimited, like more than enough of everything for everyone. And I started challenging my own perspectives, the world that I lived in. If I truly was in an abundant world that had no limits, it reminded me when I was five years old and I got into arguments with my siblings and they would, you know, you know, ten or really twelve, oh, twenty, a hundred thousand. Oh, infinity. Oh, yeah, infinity plus one. Whoa, infinity plus two. And so I started realizing I was asking for crumbs that is big as my dream and my mission of empowering over a billion people to be happy. I meet Saad Guru, who, by the way, is going to be on the first episode with Cameron Diaz of office hours, you know, on Bloomberg television and Amazon, but he's an infinite. He truly gets it because he almost mock me for thinking too small. When I said, I'm going to empower over a billion people to be happy. He's like, well, I'm empowering the whole world. It may take me multiple lifetimes, but I'm glad you're going to take at least a billion people for me, Dave. I only got six point four billion others. Well, I started thinking Saad Guru is an infinity plus one. He lives in limitlessness and infinity. And I had to do that with respect of all man-made constructs, time, money, all the things that we have built to be a reality in the man-made construct of light, meaning the time that it takes a particle of light to get from the sun to the earth, 186,000 miles per second. This cannot create the construct of what? My imagination. It can create a construct for my reality, but I like my reality to surpass other people's imagination. I see it as a key indicator that I'm thinking infinity plus one. When people laugh at me, scoff at me, make fun of me, tell me that that's crazy or impossible. The same way I would have if Jeff Basel's 25 years ago would have told me selling books out of his garage that he was going to be the richest man on earth and make a trillion bucks. I would have thought crazy, but no, he's living in infinity plus one. He understands abundance, limitlessness. And that's what I try to teach people to look at what you think is big right now and tell yourself plus one. I'm asking for crumbs.