Lessons - Build A Million-Dollar Community | Lori Harder - Serial Entrepreneur, Best-Selling Author, and Podcaster

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All listeners can save 30% off their first order. Just head to cornbreadhemp.com slash success and use code success at checkout. That's cornbreadhemp.com slash success code success for 30% off your first order of these amazing gummies. In this lessons episode, discover a framework for building a tribe with the seven agreements for connection. Learn why setting clear boundaries and expectations is essential for lasting relationships and understand how authentic communication transforms both personal and professional growth. When you think about it so we haven't even spoken really about like the the main work that you've put out in the past whatever six years has tried called bliss. And you speak about we spoke touch on it but we spoke about like you know like mentors and who you should hang out with but you actually have a framework for how to build out a tribe and how to sort of understand who you should spend your time with and who you shouldn't and and there's like there's seven what what do you call them the seven uh seven agreements for building connection. I've been literally just like what are they called they got it? Yeah I know and he's after 2017 me okay listen it was a long okay as a long as time ago you have to write more books that's besides the point um if you will write more books I have no doubt because I know you you're going through you're going through life you're going through business and you know it's you're you're evolving and then you'll probably write about the last six years all the stresses and all the shit that you've learned um so I have a question for you and it could and the question is actually quite simple. Do you want to teach over very briefly or more thoroughly about tribes and seven agreements and building relationships I think is very useful because I think that if somebody comes to this podcast and we don't even touch on it they'd be excited to explain it or and or there are probably new things that you listen when I prepped for podcasts I I did listen to older podcasts so there are probably new things that you have to speak about that I don't even know that you speak about so we can also go into those like new lessons new ideas new a new thesis you have on life we can go into that as well so I will let you choose um but I'll give you the floor where do you want to take it because we can go either way. So I can kind of touch on because even what I do now still relates to to that to building these communities so I think now I talk way more about business but I talk about networking and relationships in terms of like your business like being able to build your business and accelerate what you are doing um so in the beginning when I was starting to really want to get into um throwing personal development events and rating books and speaking this was like the beginning I was not doing this um I was coming from the fitness background um I worked my way up to having a really large online fitness membership at the time it was like in 2500 2500 monthly members and it seemed crazy to decide to shut that down because it was running great to go and do these other things that I wanted to do and that was kind of my that that was that was kind of my transition and journey into business and personal development because I was feeling way more recalled into that than I was fitness because that just even though I loved fitness and it was such a foundation for me and it's never going away in my life I just learned that fitness was the beginning of the spiritual cracking open like and so once I um went through this with a ton of women what happened is not only was I wanting to completely go somewhere else but even the women that I had worked with for a long time were now starting to go what's next like I know I have more this this fitness journey just cracked me open to everything else and now I want more what do we do how do we make money how do we you know find these different groups of people um so the book in the beginning what I did was we put together uh like I told you I'd gone to the jack canfield event and he had mentioned something in passing that he had written in his book the success principles and he had kept talking about this mastermind that he was a part of and that word was pretty new to me at the time and so at the end of that year he gave us a challenge to put together a mastermind from the room that we were in and I was like I don't I didn't see people who were kind of doing exactly what I wanted to do who were like my age group and and you know just exactly what I wanted to do so I was like okay I'm not going to do it in this group but I'm going to go find women who want to be speakers who want to write a book and who want to like expand their career so um I went online and there was another woman who was looking for kind of the same thing I knew we're in passing I don't even know how our communities like kind of interconnected but we had message each other like hey I'm looking for an accountability partner you know I just went to this thing they call it a mastermind they say it's great with three to four people do you know anybody else who would want to do this thing and so this thing turned into like eight years long of three of us who had never met before but knew that we had the same goals we would meet every other week for one hour we were just like hey are we committed to this and there's so much that went into that to be able to meet for eight years like let me tell you there's a wrote a book on it for a reason because just showing up and like being consistent and let me tell you like having to be accountable to two other people who are also doing big things was like you will face off with your demons but so that was the initial how this all started and how I started uh writing about it and from that as well um I was doing personal development events and I was breaking these women out into these groups I was doing the similar things that we were doing on these calls in these three day um like Tony Raven style retreats where we would break them into groups have them connect deeply ask a certain set of questions to each other share do all the things and voila all of a sudden these women are creating these incredible relationships and breakthroughs and still to this day we have so many best friends business partners like insane things that have come from these events of creating these little groups for people where they are supported and committed to each other and they have a toolbox surround what happens when you um you know things get weird what happens if someone disappoints you what happens if there's gossip in the group what happens if someone comes in with really high expectations and you're like whoa whoa whoa like that's not my expectation so it confronts every weird thing that was happening for me and female relationships that either made me run or made me want to run made them want to run made us not want to come together um it really is like relationship 101 for friendships but also like partnerships um and I didn't have I didn't have those tools so I like really messed it up a lot in the beginning and that's why I wrote the book is like all of these tools are the things that I've used that have now helped me so much in business like if I didn't understand these communication tools I swear to you I would have no dollars because I do think it's relationships and I think it's yeah you know connections and of course you have to be business savvy but I I really think it is your ability to lead a team and communicate and um how you're communicating to your customer and there's just you know business is business is the biggest personal development journey I think you'll ever sign up for and you have to be ready and know what to do so the book does translate and these groups translate into the work I do now and into like these different business event I just want to take a second and thank cornbread ham for supporting today's episode now cornbread ham CBD gummies have been this really nice addition to my wellness toolkit I don't use them every day just when I want to win wine after those extra busy weeks but they're perfect for those moments when you want to take the edge off and just find your balance really just shut off from work or make some special is how cornbread ham crafts them they only use a flower of USDA organic hamplants that's the best part for the purest most potent experience no fillers no artificial fluff just clean full spectrum goodness and delicious watermelon berry and peach flavor I keep them in my night stand for those moments when I just need a little extra help relaxing and I love transparent they are too every batch is third party lab tested so you know exactly what you're getting and they put together a special offer for all success story podcast listeners all listeners can save 30% off their first order just head to cornbread ham dot com slash success and use code success check out that's cornbread ham dot com slash success code success for 30% off your first order of these amazing dummies I do there are obviously there's a lot in the book there's seven agreements but you mentioned a few that included honest communication dropping expectations I mean if you're gonna pick I don't know like you pick the most I don't want to say impactful because I don't want you to have to rank your ideas from best to worst but what I mean is what are the things that people have the most trouble with what is the one thing that was like this is never done this is the one thing the movie deal for me the most that is I guess like a it's it's something that people take for granted or a misconception about communication relationship building tribe building whatever it is I've got to I think boundaries and expectations are are really big ones for my life and for what I found like in other people's lives I work with mostly women like when we do events and stuff so I think that setting boundaries in a friend group seems we're easy to people they're like oh my god I can't imagine like that seems really like strict oh my gosh it's right what that is to like paint the picture of what that looks so what happens is you know you okay let's say you're gonna start one of these groups and you find these two other people and they're like great let's meet every other Thursday at 7 a.m. for one hour and this is what it's gonna look like there's this format it's gonna be 20 minutes each there's gonna be a person who times it no one can go over the call you're never laid on the calls the calls never run over time because then what happens is someone's gonna get resentful because they can never plan around it or they're always late to pick up their kid or whatever that looks like and if you miss more than two in a row then you're just not in the group anymore unless it's obviously a huge family emergency or something because we want people who are committed and to a lot of people that scares the shit out of that they're like um no like this is that's a lot that's too much like that doesn't even feel good and I'm like okay and then that's not necessarily what I'm looking for right now and I think for people to say exactly what they want and exactly what they're looking for and set rules and parameters and have boundaries around it I think that that is like it goes against what we think is nice or what we've been raised to think is nice like oh you should understand or oh you should you know get them the opportunity or the opportunity of the doubt is that the river benefit benefit of the doubt yeah thanks for tuning in if you found this valuable don't forget to hit that subscribe button so you never miss an episode and if you want to dive deeper into this conversation check out the links in the description to watch the full episode see you in the next one