Danny Morel - Transformation Guide | How Unresolved Trauma Creates Successful But Unhappy Entrepreneurs

My mom passed away. I started questioning everything about happiness, money, I have gold, roll legs and the aston Martin. I was miserable like I think 90% of successful human beings are. Danny Morell is a renowned life coach, spiritual leader and entrepreneur, dedicated to guiding people towards awakening and transformation. If you could pick the top most successful, they're making millions, they have all the assets behind 95% of them, there's a mother wound. After building a $1 billion annual sales real estate company, Danny embarked on a spiritual journey following his mother's passing in 2016. If you're disconnected from love, then here's the secondary you're going to have issues with. You're trying to fulfill the parts of you that are missing. The same way that a crack head smokes crack is the same way that you always have to have another goal. Now through his programs like Awaken Your Highest Self and his podcast The Higher Self with Danny Morell, he helps others unlock their potential by overcoming subconscious barriers. Danny's work merges entrepreneurship, spirituality and personal growth, making him a powerful voice for transformation. When you're afraid of death, you're actually afraid to live. One of the most powerful practices that we can have is to look in the mirror. Most successful people that are wounded internally are always wearing sunglasses. It's this illusionary thing that once we do that, then we'll be happy. No brother, the happiness isn't here. Welcome to success story. I'm your host, Scott Clary. The success story podcast is part of the Habsbot podcast network. Now Habsbot doesn't just have great podcasts. They also have great tools for entrepreneurs. Let me tell you a story. I'm sure you've all heard of the Angel City Football Club. 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I've just launched a quick survey to better understand what you guys want from the show. And your feedback is going to directly shape our upcoming content. It's only going to take a few minutes of your time and I made it super easy to find. Just head over to scottdclarry.com slash survey. And as a thank you for helping me out, I'm giving away a free gift card to one lucky responded chosen at random once we hit 100 responses. So not only will your feedback help make this show even better, you might score something cool just for sharing your thought. I really appreciate your help with this one. You've guided thousands through spiritual awakenings, through personal transformation. You've built a real estate empire, but obviously that's not where you're at right now. So what was the inflection point, the pivotal moment when you realize its success and wealth, they weren't giving you the fulfillment that you were looking for? Yeah, it was where my mom died. My mom passed away. And I believe that we had a sole contract. One that's that that essentially said, like many of us do with our parents, once they leave and they're on the other side, then they start to work on us to help us to orchestrate experiencing life at the highest frequencies of love because that's where they're at. And they never got a chance to experience life in that way when they were here. So that's what started happening to me and my mom passed away, man. And I started questioning everything about everything. I started questioning everything about my relationship with Jesus, who Jesus was, God, my marriage, happiness, money, my business, my career, because up until that point, I didn't realize it at the time, but I had built this like external facade, where you know, I looked good. I had the great glasses and the custom suit and the gold Rolex and the Aston Martin and you know, I would drive up to valet and I thought I was the shit, but I was a big dickhead is the way I would call myself quite frankly, because deep inside I was miserable. I was miserable like I think 90% of successful human beings are quite frankly. And when my mom passed away, I just I just started asking myself questions that I had been afraid to ask myself my entire life. And the first one, Scott was, are you happy? See, I had been avoiding that question my entire life because I knew the answer to it. And I wasn't afraid to answer it. And when my mom passed away, like death met me, it became more real. And as a result, so did life. And I thought to myself, man, I'm going to be alive for a pretty long time. Like, how do you want to live this life? And so I started asking myself or or these questions started coming to me that led me on a spiritual journey that led me to where I'm at today. I think that I think that a lot of people, not everybody has an awakening and not everybody has this moment where they realize that they're unhappy because they chase all these external validators, right? It's very easy to keep up with the Joneses to understand that, well, if I, you know, put that next comma in my bank account, I'm going to feel like that's going to get me the validation that I'm looking for. I mean, everybody who comes on this show as a high performer, everybody who comes on this show is very successful or is on the path to becoming very successful. But one thing that I think you do very well that you sort of found out and it's unfortunate that you realized it when your mother passed, but at least the silver lining is that you did realize is that they're chasing they're chasing the wrong thing and it sounds cliche, but you came to this moment where money and success in a traditional sense didn't create the happiness and fulfillment that that you were actually looking for. And I think that that's a really scary thought for a lot of people because they don't know what else to look for. Yeah, man, well, and I'd like to explain why this happens, Scott, if you were to look right now throughout, for example, I'm going to use social media because social media is in today's day and age where you look for information. So if you were to look through social media, I don't have to name them. If you could pick the top most successful highest achieving money earners, whether they're in like the highest of the highest in real estate, the highest of the highest in sales, you know, the people, right? They're making millions. They have all the assets. They have all the cars that I can guarantee, you Scott, that behind 95% of them, there's a mother wound. And what is a mother wound? A mother wound is essentially an energetic wound that you experience or received as a little boy or as a little girl from your mother. I'm talking about men here with women. It's typically a father wound. And so what happens, Scott, is that when you don't receive love, you know, and sometimes you live in households where your mom is like, nice to you, but she's busy working or she's busy fighting with your dad or she's busy taking care of, you know, your brothers and sisters, when you don't receive love, when you don't receive the fullness of your mother's love, you are not receiving the fullness of the feminine energy. And therefore you are disconnected from the frequency of love and you're disconnected from your feminine. In more severe cases, when there's abuse, neglect, or drug, you get more severe examples of success. So the more successful the people are the deeper the mother wound. And what I discovered is that that was me. I was so busy looking for external validation. I was so busy looking for life in success, in power, in followers, in cars, in houses, in being the man, right? Like I wanted to be the man. Well, the reason why I wanted to be the man was because I didn't feel like the man inside. Yeah. And this is where things get really, really hairy for people is that most people don't even know that that is what's actually happening. And so the second problem that most human beings have in this, I'm just going to speak to men in this case is that when you are high performance goal, you're always trying to achieve the next goal. You're always and you're operating from a lower frequency because you're disconnected from love. Well, hang on a second. If you're disconnected from love, then here's the secondary you're going to have issues with you're going to have issues with your relationship. You're going to have issues with your partner on the outside on Instagram. It could look like the perfect marriage. And you guys have got it all figured out. I'm telling you, you cannot possibly feel real love with another human being because they are not your purpose. They are not your passion. They are not the apple of your eye success and power is. So they're always going to come in second place. And this is why most of our successful people, especially the ones we see like on social media, are deeply dissatisfied and deeply unhappy. So what happens when now you hear this idea and you're trying to reconcile this duality where you still want to be traditionally successful, but you also want to have fulfillment in all the other areas of your life that you've neglected for the past 30 years. And you're like, I only know one way. I only know how to bus my ass and have an okay relationship, but I know how to make money. That's right. Where do I start? Where do I start healing? Yeah. I think I, well, I'll tell you why I started. Am I going to die like this? Am I going to die? Never knowing real love. Am I going to die always having to achieve another goal? Am I going to die? Never knowing what peace is. Am I going to die being disconnected from my partner? Am I going to die feeling disconnected? Scott, for my kids, because love is love. It's a frequency, you know what I'm saying? And so those were the questions that I started to ask myself. And then, you know, when I started to become like really present to what was happening in my life, I started to realize that everything in my life, I can trace it backwards to what I did or didn't receive as a little boy or as a little girl. See, because now that's the first step in healing. The first step in healing is awareness. It's that oh shit moment. It's that moment where you finally understand, time out. I have been operating this entire time in my life as a wounded little boy or a little girl. Sure, I have nice toys, nice cars, nice stuff, and I'm successful. But deep inside, I'm afraid to look in the mirror or I'm afraid to look at my partner when I'm making love or I'm afraid to be held or I'm afraid to calm down. I'm on vacation all the time and my partner is always complaining that I'm on the phone and like your brain justifies it because you're trying to give them a better life bullshit. You ain't trying to give nobody shit. In trying to fulfill the parts of you that are missing, you're trying to fill the void in you. As a matter of fact, I'll go as far as to say it. The same way that a crackhead smokes crack is the same way that you always have to have another goal. I've thought a lot about this idea of it's slightly different, but I think it ties into it. When you don't have a god in your life in the traditional sense, you replace something else with God and that can be work. It can be some other advice like drinking or drugs. I think this ties into it as well. When you don't, when you don't heal, you numb that pain with something that society actually tells you is okay, which is work. Well, let's say that's the kicker. The kicker is, if I may, I'm going to take it a little bit deeper. Go for it, yeah. Yeah, the kicker is that the 3D world here in Earth, the energy that rules the 3D world is the masculine energy. It's not the feminine, right? Which is why we think God is a man and which is why we are constantly up here in our heads, always on the go, go, go. Well, so what does the 3D world do? The 3D world uplifts and puts on a pedestal, the people that are in the system and successful at the system, right? So we put on a pedestal, people like Diddy. That dude is messed up, messed up, but we gladly have been buying tickets and support, but what, but he's successful. So I want to take a picture with him. You want to take a picture with darkness? So what you want to take a picture with because you're not awake and you don't understand what's actually happening, right? And so then here we are, we have a world that is basically telling you, hey, listen, everything that you've been looking for, which you've actually been looking for is the piece that you felt in your mother's womb. That's what you've been looking for your entire life. Everything you've been looking for, you will find it when you make more money or when you become more successful or when you have that car or when you have the partner or when you have whatever, and you know, it takes, that's when a spiritual awakening happens is when you, when you finally get there, like I did and you're like son of a gun, I'm still not happy. And that's where the journey began for me. And that's where we take people through that process, basically. So part of what happened with your mother was facing death and facing the reality of death. And like you said, the first question you ask yourself is, do I want to die this way? So I think that even walking through your own journey is usually helpful to people that are going to start on their own path, even after listening to this or consuming your content, hopefully it doesn't take death. And I mean, I do like the idea of stoicism and sort of confronting your own death, but hopefully it doesn't take that to get somebody to take the first step. Where do they start? Where did you start? What's the first thing? I want to reiterate something, but you see, I think part of the healing process, if you decide to take it this deep is healing your relationship with death because you have to understand that when you're afraid of death, you're actually afraid to live because everything in life is all duality. It's all one and the same. So for example, fear and love are actually the same. It's just broken. It's a strand of energy that is just broken, right? And so what happens is we as human beings, we go, uh-uh, we're shutting off this side of it. So we're going to go live on this side of it. It's the same thing with life and death. If someone is afraid of dying, like by the way I once was, what is actually happening is you're afraid to live as your authentic self. This is really deep. So then you get to go into those parts of you in a deep, deep way to experience, wait a minute, who am I really? Who am I really without the bullshit? Who am I really? Who would I have been if my mom would have known how to love me, which by the way rewind, there's no way she could have because her mom, her mom died at 13 days old. So what I had been caring my whole life was a feminine wound that like most of your listeners, we've been caring for generation upon generation upon generation. And if you've ever heard of the terminology, the one, you get to become the one, right? You get to become the one that heals it so that it ends with you and it doesn't pass on to your children. I know there's this movie called Ends With You. I never watched it. I didn't want to get into the like the drama of the Blake and all that stuff, but it literally could and with you. So listen, where does it start? I would say one of the most powerful practices that we can have is to look in the mirror. And I'll tell you why because the eyes are connection, right? And the eyes are literally like the doorway to the soul. So you'll notice like if you scroll down on my Instagram, I once did as well, most successful people that are wounded internally are always wearing sunglasses. Why? Because they're afraid for you to see them. That is the energetic picture of this. This is external. I need something external to block me so that you don't see the real me because I'm afraid of you seeing the real me. I'm afraid of you seeing past the barrier and the illusion. Yeah. And so the first thing I like to tell people is go look in the mirror because if you can't look at yourself, you're never going to be able to look at a partner. You never ever actually get if you can't see yourself, you'll never be able to see someone else. If you can't love yourself, you'll never be able to love someone else. And what I discovered, I couldn't do the dude. My mind was always racing. I couldn't sit still in meditation. We'll go there in a second. I couldn't look in the mirror because I was like, I just couldn't do it. I was so scared and so anxious and so disconnected. And so that's a daily practice that you can do. And then when you do, you just send loving thoughts to yourself. You send affirmations to yourself. You send kind words and kind energy to yourself. And I want to prepare your listener and get ready because emotion could start to come out. And that's your body starting to release and purge out everything that you've been holding inside of you. And so that's where that's a beautiful practice. The second thing and I trust me and listen, never in my life, I grew up in the ghetto. I was around gangs. I never in my life did I think I'd be this woo-woo guy that's about to tell you what I'm about to tell you. But go take your shoes off, go sit on the grass, go reconnect with the wind, the sun, nature. There's a reason why you feel so replenished when you get away from all of the hoopla and you go on vacation. It's because you're reconnecting with nature, which is mother earth, which by the way is the mother. It's you reconnecting to the groundedness of the mother. We were never intended to walk around with shoes on it. So that's a second thing that you can do. And then the third is yoga. I can't stress this enough. It's really a beautiful practice because it combines you to your body, your mind, your heart, your breathing, your soul. It reconnects you with you. And I was one of those guys at the beginning that I was like, I'm not going to do that shit like. And now, man, it just it brings me back to me. I'm going to give a little plug. 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There's a lot of reasons why the way most of us operate were depressed were sad were sick. I mean it's not I don't think it's woo woo at all. I think that these are practices. You're bringing in mother and mother earth and I don't understand a lot about that but I do know scientifically if you just follow those practices, even if you don't go to that level, you're going to be a lot healthier happier than you are right now. Yeah man for sure. I yeah there was and yeah could I could I could I say something else so so again I just want to I want to I want to invite you and your listeners you know so many people let's let's talk about science right so if if I were to point first off let's do some basics masculine is the mind feminine is the heart right we are both masculine and feminine we came from both a mother a mother and a father right so so if I were to point out and if I were to say point to which one is science the mind or the heart which one it's a which one is science I mean they're both science I would say that the mind is more logical and the heart is more emotional yes yeah yeah yeah okay so science is the mind remember when I told you at the very beginning I said that we live in a very masculine world because we want proof we want knowledge we we were like what's the next podcast I can listen to what's the next book that I can read ever and Scott what I am telling you is all real healing if you're listening to my voice right now and you actually want to heal it comes from here brother it comes from you letting go of the mind and going I surrender and connecting to the divine connecting to the universe connecting to God right not through religion not not through through and this this is what we'd help people to do whether it's at my event awaken which people have healed literally their bodies their your money issues relationship it I mean everything not because of me by the way because we just guide them back to themselves that's it that's the whole that's the whole journey now yeah when I when I say God and religion I think what I really mean is the removal of your own ego from the equation yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah I yep if you can learn to remove this like we do this through Beth through meditation so so mirror grounding yoga next step is meditation meditation is it's tough for people because we're the mind is so on the go so that's why I got awakened we use breath work because breath work as long as you breathe you're literally going to have a spiritual experience I mean literally every every event we have we get people visited from their their their parents their ancestors they literally the angels come in heal them I know this sounds fucking wild I'm just telling you what happens you can go on the website you can see here for yourself um and and and they get healing in very profound ways what is actually so help people understand what what are they experiencing when they create space to heal like what is actually happening because is it just because they've been going non-stop their whole life and and this event or even when they meditate even outside of your event are they for the first time in their life finally slowing down I mean I mean in like layman's terms yes but but what's actually happening is that okay I'm gonna get woo woo go for go for a day thousands of years ago we used to number one women were the authority in society because women are the ones that are spiritually connected they are women are the masters of the spiritual world men are the masters of the physical world this is why we're good with our hands and we're a little bit physically stronger right and then what what what happened was us men wanted that power and we kind of took over and when we did that we disconnected ourselves from our own feminine because energetically we wanted to disassociate from anything that once was in power and that happened for thousands of years and then in 1960 the feminist movement began right the women started to come back online women started to get watch this their voices back their throat shock restarted opening up and because they had been suppressed and oppressed for so long and raped and murdered and you know again we carry all of this stuff from past lives they came out and when it comes out it comes out from anger it came out from anger which is like the feminist movement which by the way I understand it I understand it and yet what happened this they then disconnected from their heart so now we have a society of people there's a war right now it's a war that's been happening for 500,000 years it's the war literally between men and women but it's also a war between the mind and the heart that if you have a war within you between your mind and a heart and you're constantly appearing you're never here you're going to attract because you are the creator of your life by the way that's a whole other story you're the creator of your life and you attract based off of the energy and frequency that you are living in you were going to attract from the mind someone that operates in the mind as well and so when you're both operating over here I call that you attracted a mind mate you can only attract a soul mate when you attract from here from the heart right and so what is actually happening is you quiet the mind to reconnect to the ability that you have to connect to your spirit guides your angels your guardian angels your ancestors your parents one they once they passed and and listen carefully the more and more that you're open spiritually the more and more that your telepathic powers come back on because we as humans used to once communicate before there was language through telepathy and literally this is when couples start to experience things like like they'll think things and the other person will think is because we have the ability to do that so what's happening man is we're returning to our highest self this is why the event is called awaking your highest self because we are all so powerful that if we can't even understand how powerful we actually are I have a question but I have to promise with the first the first question because the second question will be how does this play how does this weave its way into relationships that are not with your intimate partner so people in your life your friends your peers business all of that because I think we also have trouble with that for most people but I think the most important question especially for this audience because this audience is critical and thoughtful where do these teachings where these learnings come from so you're saying things that many people do not understand or would think would be absolutely crazy so I want to understand where does this come from I don't think it's religion so where do the learnings come from I think that's the best part of my story and I say that because it's the best part of all of your story um Scott I lead the largest spiritual events for sure the largest breath works on the planet right now I can say I can tell you this you know this is a ability a business audience I'll bet a million dollars on this you will get more transformation in our three-day event than you would in 30 years of therapy and why do I say this because therapy only deals with this what most humans don't realize by the way not just my event working with plant medicine is is on par with that right most people don't realize that a lot of our trauma we are holding in the body and in our energy and in our frequency yeah and so when people ask me like you know people trip out all the time because they go okay so Danny like where did you study I didn't so the word where did you get certified I didn't what the fuck so then what what what what what did you learn this shit from I just healed bro that's it I just I just I just healed I just I just did enough I had I had enough courage to go in the jungle sit in front of the altar take Iowa take the medicine and say I want the truth show me the truth about God show me the truth about life show me the truth about helping people show me the truth about myself show me show me what's holding me back show me what's and I just and I and I and I just I lay there and I cried and I wept and I learned and and and all of the messages there I don't care I don't care what book you have humans please listen to me you there was you will not need another book when you get connected up there that's my guarantee I think that it's interesting and I say that because I know that people will ask that but the things that you talk about with feeling like there's some sort of telepathy with the the person that you love like everybody knows it's there but nobody can really put a finger on it yeah yeah so I know it's there and I know and I have it with with with my better half and we always laugh how there's so many like synchronicities and we finish each other sentences and sometimes even when we're in you know different countries in the world and we're traveling all text or something that I'm thinking about and she'll be like in the middle of writing the exact same message back to me and it's just very weird but nobody you can't put a finger on it it just feels really fucking weird well Scott here's let's take a deeper why do we need to put a finger on it you understand what I'm saying because we're in our heads yes silence I have to know where did you learn this from right what what within us this is what I'm trying to get at what within us has to put a fix surrender let go allow and this this reminds me of that quote you know our greatest fear is not that that we're inadequate our greatest fear is how powerful we actually are brother when you actually experience that you'll go oh my god like that is the quote of all quotes because that is truly our deepest fear I'm just gonna go there our deepest fears that we are not separate from God our deepest fears that we are one with God our deepest fear is that there's no one to wait for our deepest fears that there's no one coming to save us our deepest fears that we've been the one that we've been waiting for our entire lives to save us our deepest fears that there's no middle person there's actually not even no thing that we can point that or hope for to answer our questions our deepest fear is that the the answer to all of our questions has been in the one place that we've been afraid to look at in here that's our deepest fear so we go on this healing journey and obviously the majority of this podcast if we look at the demographics it does skew it does skew about 75% male a lot of a lot of guys in the audience and we can talk about women as well because I think that's important and I think a lot of the lessons that you teach whoever listens to this can bring it into their relationship which is which is very useful and they're obviously there's some women listening to this as well but just in terms of men listening to this who have built businesses who are on this healing journey and they're thinking okay great this is going to be useful for my relationship with my spouse my partner but how does this translate into all the other relationships in my life how do I use some of these learnings when I'm picking a business partner or when I'm deciding who to hire there's transferable knowledge but they need to understand how to apply it I'll tell you a story first off I'm going to start off by saying everyone in your life everyone every customer every client every one of your employees every everyone everyone that you see on the street everyone that you bump into everyone is simply a reflection of the energy that lives within you and when you heal what happens and what is happening right now Scott is that there are two worlds that are being created and one world is built on the frequency of fear fear that you're inadequate fear that you're not enough and the other world is built on the frequency of love love that you are the one you've been looking for love that you have the answers within you and what is happening right now Scott the best way that I can describe it which is going to sound very weird but in this in the world of love you literally do not run into a track see or participate in anything that the people that live in the world of fear participate in you don't have to worry about getting mug you don't have to worry about your shit getting stolen you don't have to worry about I'll prove it to you Scott what was COVID easy answer is a pandemic COVID was a energetic physical manifestation of the fear that lives within all of us COVID was fear personified right and based off so like let's say that this is COVID this is COVID my hand if you're listening and based off of the energy that you live with inside of you you saw COVID as a certain way when you're afraid then COVID was there mirroring back to you everything that you deeply fear it hit you in your finances it hit you in your health it hit you in your relationships and the more more that you live in fear the more and more that that fear was mirrored right back to you and it told you if you don't do what we're telling you to do you're going to experience the ultimate fear you're going to die you know what's ironic what's that it's that I was never scared of COVID and my business has never done better and we made major life decisions because of COVID and I mean I know that it hurt quite a few people but for that period of time that was one of the most transformative periods in my life yeah man yeah man and by the way everyone who's listening it whatever you decided to do with that it everything is perfect I teach this in my spiritual masterclass everything is perfect like part of how you're going to transform your life is going backwards and understanding that everything in your life that has happened it's perfect yeah even that thing you go Danny but you don't understand what I've been through yeah man even that I got ideal with you know in a very profound way victims of sexual abuse and I'm telling you right now that even people that I've experienced some of the deepest sexual trauma can transcend that energy and create a beautiful life and a beautiful version of themselves that they would not have created if it wasn't for that trauma but you gotta allow yourself you gotta allow yourself to see that your soul is on a journey and as a result of your soul being on that journey your soul is going to call in everything that you have to experience to get your soul to the place that you're ultimately trying to get to which hopefully for all of us is enlightenment yeah and so going back to you know the clients and people when this was happening with me and when I was in my my spiritual awakening I had an affair and it's and it's important to understand who I was and why that was so important because Scott I was Mr. Goody Tushus I was the guy that never cheated I was the guy that never looked I was the guy that I was the guy that when all of the friends wives knew I was going on the guy trip they would let the friends go on the guy trip I was that guy right because they knew I was Mr. squeaky clean but was I because even the being squeaky clean was a part of the part of me that needed you to like him in order for me to like myself you understand what I'm saying so like any man I had my secrets and I had my thoughts and I had the things going on inside of my head and one day it just all it just it just it just all happened and I had an affair I did the one thing I promised myself I never would do um but it was it was the beginning of my awakening it happened right after my mom's passing anyways the reason why I'm bringing this up I had an assistant and I had just sold my real estate company and we were doing this business and it came out that my assistant was stealing for me and I was like what the fuck I don't know one ever steals from me like I never this is just not stuff that I deal with right like I'm a pretty positive guy so positive things happened and Scott you want to sure bond as only I thought that but I go hang on a second I'm not a victim I created this I'm the creator of this so what within me created this Scott I hired my assistant I attracted my assistant I attracted someone that would lie and and cheat me when I was literally lying and cheating to my ex-wife wow it happened at the same time that I was in the affair so Scott my answer to your question is this the benefit of healing the benefit of detaching from the societal version of yourself and living from the spiritual version of yourself is that literally not only will you heal but the seven closest family members to you will start the process of healing simply because of your energy and frequency and as a result the people that work with you I'm telling you if they're not matching in the same frequency and they'll fall away and they'll be replaced by people that will so as a result guess what happens to your business it grows ten times bigger literally with half of the effort so so the bad the hiring the wrong people the wrong business partners it's the same thing is when you keep attracting the wrong wrong man wrong wrong woman it's all the same thing and and the answer is yes and is there ever anything that's right or wrong that's where that's where the so this this idea because it's all perfect for where you are right now that's also very hard idea for people to wrap their heads around because that means that there's ownership an agency required and I you probably see this you see that one event I mean you we're talking about a bad hire got forbid sexual trauma which is way worse than any bad hire um people can go in two directions from that right so they can use it as a place to learn and heal from and calm ten times stronger or it can derail their entire life and and you know Scott like that's that's why I want to help people with what what I realized God is that like when I started my awakening unknowingly I had been putting all of the blame on my mom my dad my life circumstances but I wish it could be different but I wish it was better but anyway and then when I really looked at it I said oh my God I I never would have been the man that I am today if it wasn't for all of those things that I've been blaming and harboring all this time and and Scott that like that when everything opened up 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on our listener survey at scott clary dot com slash survey it takes just a few minutes and one lucky respondent want a gift card once we hit 100 responses your feedback directly impacts what we cover on the show i really appreciate it what when people go through this healing process what do they start to discover about the people around in the relationships that they have the thorough reflection of them and what happens what happens if it's a bad reflection and you're on this journey but your wife is not yeah that's where things i you know i this is we help people through this process um you know look um sometimes you start the journey and then the wife or the partner wants to go on the journey as well and then that's great and sometimes they don't scott and and that's a that's a that's a that's a truth that's something that we have to learn to deal with which then leads us to are you attached or are you in love because sometimes what i realize after like my divorce which by the way i'm not telling everybody i'm just telling you you know my story and i actually believe that you can heal work through most anything now i just i just wasn't equipped with the tools back then but but but what i believed when i was going through my divorce is that i believed that like i i realized that the wounded little boy in me who wanted to be loved is the one that constantly thought about being married which therefore never allowed me to pick a partner from love i was picking a partner from avoid which literally caused me to on my wedding day i knew i wasn't in love but i wanted to be so married that i wanted i wanted to be married you know and and then you know like 13 years later man i i i i i realize i cannot love this person the way they deserve to be loved how often do you think that happens with men on their on their wedding day realizing that they're going to go into it but they really shouldn't be going into it it's not just men bro it's it's it's women as well from from from from from the people that i've worked with it's everyone because Scott let's let's start with the basics first off we have a immense pressure in our society around getting married right it's like it's like when you're married like okay chat like you got that part done and when you're not like you're the weirdo like there's something wrong with you right of course yeah and then and then if you're a woman you have your biological clock right your biological clock is ticking you want to have babies right so there's that pressure but hang on a second but then there's religion and religion has done a number on us when it comes to our sexuality that's a literally an hour podcast on that alone but it causes us to think that we are sinners or bad if we have sex before marriage this is the most ludicrous thought that could ever exist because number one there is no such thing as sin human beings please listen to me there is no such thing as sin number two there is no way shape or form that you could be bad or evil or going to number two there's no such thing as hell number three there's no bad guy making you do bad things number four there's no way that you could be bad by doing the very thing that created your life there's no way and so when we are told that we are bad because we're doing the thing that we created our life Scott let me tell you how deep this is we're afraid of life we're afraid to create our life based off of what we want because the thing that creates life we're blocked from the beauty of it we're blocked from the expression of it and so you have all of these pressures around you that make you want to do something I'm not saying marriage is bad what I will tell you if you were to go into the spirit world right now if you were to take a little rocket ship and you were to ask all the angels and God hey God hey all the angels what do you think about marriage they'd be like don't forget to do it hold on hold on and I'm gonna say and I'm and they're and they're gonna be like why not they grow up because you dumb humans you're doing it for all the wrong reasons you do it because you want to you don't want to be alone you're doing it because you want to control other people you're doing it because you want to be loved you're doing it because you're doing it for all the wrong reasons if you could go find yourself and if you could go find love within yourself without the need of another person and then from that place you attract another human being who also has done the work and then from that energy you want to live your life together then by all means go do that but 80% of humanity Scott you know this as well as I do that's not why they're getting married and that's where this start this stuff starts but you know that that's why 80% of not just marriage and relationships 80% of everything we do is for the wrong reasons that's why I always ask people why I coach people you know because there's nothing wrong with making a lot of money make a million bucks a week for all I care just don't give your heart and soul for it creating it in a way that's beautiful so that you could support your family and live a dream life man yeah but that's what people I ask people all the time they go okay Danny I want to make a million bucks a year working 20 hours a week great no problem easy why a million by the way why not nine hundred and fifty thousand you know say because this this is this illusionary thing that we have that once we do that then we'll be happy right no brother the happiness is in here I'm very fortunate because I get front row seats to you know the most successful entrepreneurs financially successful entrepreneurs and you see after the exit they have no more goals to go after because they've achieved the thing that they were told to have to achieve their whole life and then they're depressed that's right and that those are the people come come my bro I got you let's go in here and the deepest way imaginable because I'll be honest with you though to me those are the folks that can make the greatest impact on humanity agreed the entrepreneur that is financially free and then can go help other people and create services that help other people from love not from a need that's what we're all trying to get to write there my man that right there what would be one of the most out of all these ideas that you've understood after going through the ceiling journey yourself what was the hardest for you to internalize and to live surrender because I was a control freak man I didn't realize I'll tell you my my first ceremony with ayahuasca I go to Costa Rica my mom had just passed away my buddy Gerard Adams I saw him on his gram he had done ayahuasca and I saw smile on his face so big and I thought man I want to smile like that right so I said whatever that dude is smoking I was smoking too so right away I go to Costa Rica I go sit with ayahuasca and that first ceremony I walked in bro you can imagine me Gucci sunglasses Louis Vuitton bag go roll legs like cocky asshole right and you know I take the first cup I take the first cup where now we're into the ceremony and nothing is happening so I go and everybody around me is like moaning and groaning and like they're do you know whatever's going on there's like 35 people and I'm like this stuff come on man so I go back up and the shaman is like do you want a little bit more I say yeah I give it to me he's like well how much do you want I go I don't know this stuff ain't working so do you give me whatever he goes okay so he gave me another Scott I sat down and I literally go oh yeah like that right and next thing you know what happened is that like my arms started flapping like a butterfly like literally like a butterflies fast as possible and I'm looking at my arms going what the hell is happening right now and you know I was one of those guys that would go to church and I would want to hear God's voice so much and I would pray extra hard and I would try to speak in tongues and I just I always wanted spirituality basically but I never heard God's voice and I you know to to this day I remember I will always remember this moment it was it was her her voice I owe Oscar the voice she whispered in my ear she said in Spanish by the way she said my son I'm about to transform your life the same way that a butterfly is transformed and that that's why our logo now is is the butterfly because it's what we want to help humanity do is to transform right well the reason why I'm bringing up this story is because never in my life did I realize how much the frequency of control was a part of my life I was scared I was scared out of my mind because I wasn't in control because I didn't know how much time was left because I didn't know how long it was going to last because and that's where I started working through that energy and Scott that's really the healing journey is to work through all of these energies that unknowingly are blocking us energies like pride and desire and control and shanime and guilt and all of these lower frequency energies that keep us vibrating at a lower level which keep us attracting life at a lower level basically I want to understand just to sort of bring a full circle to one of the ideas that you brought forward at the beginning the men in the audience that are suffering from a mother wound and why that makes them so successful you also mentioned women who are suffering from a father wound so that's a I'm sure there's components of that healing process that are similar but what would be different yeah it's it's all a broken heart um this dynamic is pretty interesting because it's a lot of what's driving our female entrepreneurs right now again please hear this guys there's nothing wrong would be I wish that the world was a six you're free you're God you can create whatever you want it says you got to understand what is the energy you're creating it from so case in point most of the women we work with and men for example I'm going to talk about the women for example right now they're really successful but their life is a mess they feel empty they they they feel disconnection with their partners they're not they don't have passionate sex I'll just say it they're they're they're vagina doesn't open during sex they don't lubricate enough like they're this is real issues they have to take medicine they're on you know add a roll and all this shit you don't need any of this stuff well I start asking questions I'm gonna go tell me about your relationship with your father and like nine times out of ten what happens is is that dad let them down in a way that when the masculine in their life doesn't protect them then they create a story that says then I will now be my own protector and I will never feel that pain again so as little girls their hearts get locked down they start living from the mind and they go out and literally build careers and lives highly successful by the way nothing wrong but it was all coming from a wound that happened when they were a little girl and so people when they come work with me it's like I want to I want to return back to my feminine well we got to take them through a process of returning back to their broken heart and reopening that heart so that they could smile again so that they could love again so that they could know so that they could stop attracting safe men because what these alpha babes and like like boss babes attract is they will either attract a guy that is also a boss dude that's a divorce waiting to happen like that that won't last long that was JLo and Ben Affe I could have told you they were gonna break up I said give it a year to most why she never gave her heart a chance to heal from a rod anyhow but or or they'll attract like a guy in his feminine because she's in the masculine and he's in the feminine and she knows she can control him and she knows by the way this is this used to be me by the way a lot of successful men because of the wounded heart they're actually in their feminine and their wounded feminine in relationships and they're afraid to speak up because they're afraid to not be loved anymore that that was me by the way and so what happens is there are attracting relationships with men that there's no passion with and there's no respect with they're constantly working they're never at peace and and a woman is just not designed to be like that brother so this is where a lot of issues like breast cancer and stuff like that come up because it's a it's a it's a violation of the feminine is what it is and they're living out that wound without even knowing it well I see sickness and unhappiness and depression on both sides so on on you see it a lot with uh you know I always put an air quotes high performing successful men they never want to settle down or multiple divorces later and then with high performing successful women they're balancing okay so how much of my energy do I put into a job and what kind of man do I want to be with and should I have kids now or later and I don't know when to my life is now confusing so you have all these like I don't know again I'm not like a woo woo guy but you have like these broken souls across the spectrum that don't know how to navigate and everyone's sad and everyone's depressed now I know bro I know and the answer is you gotta go back here you gotta go back here it's the only place where everything makes sense it's tough dude it's tough and society doesn't set us up to be happy society doesn't set us up to be to look inside it's distraction and grass is greener on the other side and work harder and make more money very tough let's pop let's got again remember what I said it could even that be perfect yes you see see the game because because because if we if we go that route and then we still don't find ourselves happy eventually Scott something is gonna bring us to our needs illness divorce disease something is gonna bring us to our needs and then we can start the process of returning to our hearts and then from there bro it's just how deep do you want to go I was just one of those guys I do what I do today because I was just one of those guys that I was like fuck this I want to go as deep as there is to go and now that's what you teach that's that's why I mean that's what I do you know I was gonna say the whole point is you don't have to go as deep I think that you just have to start healing start understanding why you're doing the things that you're doing because you are a hundred percent on point body life has a way of shutting you down you're not you're not stronger than it something's gonna break at some point something really great that's right if you think about the hardest lesson that you've learned in your own life that was useful to you but you wouldn't wish on anyone else what was that lesson and why it was the fear of death yeah I went one year without sleeping cheese because I was afraid to fall asleep and I I literally saw an entity leave me but I also realized man that I needed to go through it because I needed to experience the depths of the fear that exists in humanity in order to help it you know you can't ever help someone go through or release or process what you haven't gone through release or process yourself you know and so yeah I think that was a big one for me what do you think your biggest or the biggest misconception about your success story is that people believe that isn't true I don't know because I don't I don't really put an end I don't really put focus on what other people I love it no that's health that's a healthy answer dude that's a very healthy answer my answer yeah I think I you know in my past life I would have answered that but I don't I don't give my energy to that if you were if you were going to leave the audience with one thought about sort of the cost of ambition the cost of pursuing external goals and validation uh we've mentioned a lot but what would be the biggest concern if somebody hasn't if somebody's not convinced yet why they should go on a self-healing journey what would be the one line that you would tell them yeah I don't know about one line because it's it's a big thing I remember I remember I used to go to like unleash the power within Tony Robbins for example right which you know I think every entrepreneur has has been to it's it's it's a wonderful event my thought is there's just there's just there's just deeper work to be done I remember I used to go and he would put up the wheel of life every year that I would go remember that with and every year I would go would be like fuck this thing is not getting better like I'm always out of balance right and and the reason why is because your your your your your job your career your money your business your relationship your fitness your contribution is all of it it's not the outside in it's the inside out so you're on a hamster wheel trying to get balance and all of these things uh uh that's not the way it works you go inward to find balance within and then the outside stuff is just a mirror and a reflection like if I were to do a hamster wheel right now there's no wheel because life is just a it's just an expression of how I feel inside of myself you know and so I would say that the greatest thing and the greatest cost is peace their own peace their own ability to be at peace with themselves which then leads to peace in relationship peace with life peace with all of it and you you can't get to peace until you release fear and that that that that that's the real journey the real journey is releasing fear and that was going to be that was really my last question when somebody goes on this journey they start to heal how do they know they're on the right path how do they know that the work is working out to me I'll tell you because they're scared as fuck that's why because because the other the other thing is that I've probably gone through a thousand many deaths I'll leave I'll leave you guys with this is like for the real you to be born the old you has to die right for for your business to have been born the part of you that was scared to launch it had to go and all of life is like that for for for magic in your relationship to to be born like the stop that's blocking you has to go man for a lot of you that's you got to cut porn but you're never going to cut it up here because porn is just an outward reflection of the frequency you're unconsciously living in in here so you could try all day long to cut the addiction you're never going to cut it up here I'll tell you this because that that was me you can go to church for 50 thousand years if you want to you're never going to cut it there you got to cut it in here it's the only place that it'll go because when you go in here to your feminine you will heal the relationship that you have with the feminine outside of you you will start to honor women in a more beautiful loving way because you have learned to finally love and honor yourself in a more beautiful loving way and as a result of that when you can see yourself and in in in the power and the beauty and the presence that you are you will never be able to look at a woman in that way ever again it's it's no trying it's no effort it's no accountability partner it will literally just be gone I love it um if people want to connect with you if they want to come out to some of the retreats that you hold where they go on website social all that yeah Danny Morella on Instagram a week in is is what I I would I would literally say will will transform your life is Danny Morella dot com backslash awaken we're going to be in Anaheim in Colorado in London in Austin and then if if you just want to start and just go online to start listening to some of this stuff and start the healing process just go to Danny Morella dot com backslash awaken and the letter you amazing I appreciate you so much um I appreciate you coming on your time and just and and turning turning your lessons into wisdom because that's also not easy it's one thing to learn yourself but it's another thing to sort of teach the world out of everything that you've learned in your entire life and you can only pass on one lesson to your kids so it's the most important lesson out of all the lessons what would that be and why you and God are one you and love our one you and abundance our one there's nothing to hope for wish for or to strive for because it's all already who you are